Ok usually I really really really hate to talk about people especially negatively but if I don't get this out I don't know what will happen to me...haha! I have this..um..friend...and I use the term loosely because my husband hates them and I guess I just feel bad for them. The husband has been laid off since just about a year ago...which fine that sucks but he hasn't even had any job since then. He refuses apparently to work for a "low paying" job...but its okay to collect unemployment for a year and apply for less jobs than I have fingers on one hand. He tried to join the Army but gave up. And the wife has not even looked for a job either. I seriously like tell them every time I see a big ass sign that says "Now Hiring", but when I ask if they followed up...no. I did the guys resume because it was TERRIBLE. I looked up jobs for him, tell them when I see places hiring...nothing.
To top this off they have a child who obviously has some learning disabilities which is fine I am not discriminatory, but they let him get a way with way too much especially in my house. He reared back to punch me one day and seriously it took all the restraint in the world not to react. He is constantly hitting and pushing both of my children and if he falls and hurts himself he says that my older son did it which I have been right there watching some times and its definitely not my son even laying a hand on him. She hardly ever says anything to her son when he hits my kids but yet if my kids even so much as toss something in his direction I get a horrible attitude like 'what the hell'. He basically beats his mom all the time and she lets him. Everything is 'wait until your dad can deal with you'...I'll make dinner and they'll be here so I feel bad so I offer to feed him and give him a plate, he'll eat one bite and thats it..she'll beg him to eat and if he doesn't then 'daddy will get you later'...WTF...take care of it NOW...be the freaking parent. He runs their home and tries to run mine.
Mike wants me to cut all ties with them because he thinks they are users, good for nothing, just all around crappy people...but I have a horrible bleeding heart and feel bad..but on the other hand I feel like I have done all that I can. A few months ago a very close family member of the husband passed away so I fronted them the money for him to buy a plane ticket and they paid me back but then the wife and kid wanted to go on a trip for 'fun' and had the balls to ask me to front them the money again...what in the hell...seriously?!? Must be nice to live in a LUXURY apartment, collect unemployment, get free food and not have to do a damn thing....ugh I am so frustrated and I know my husband is right but I do not know how to sever the ties.
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I know that must be hard, and cutting ties can get messy. Maybe you could just distance yourself, or change the level of your friendship with them. Still show you care and are there, but that's it. Don't offer anything to them or help with the job search. If they aren't grateful that's their loss. Hang in there girl.
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